Xining has an expert's knack of riling even the mildest-mannered people. From the rude, reckless drivers to the insane behaviour of pedestrians to the spitting, snarling and smoking populace who treat the street as their own front room. I once saw three workmen in hardhats go at each other with shovels and a girl bark like a dog and gob at her boy friend in a Xining cafe. He wasn't barking but he spat back. Don't get me started on the Hui men with their carpets and Friday afternoon prayers.
It's easy - especially if you are British where complaining has been mastered as a fine art -- to find yourself caught in an endless samsara of bitching.
But today I was yanked down to earth.
It happened on the 102, a humble little bus that trundles from my university into the centre of Xining.
I boarded and moved to a space clear of bags and human bodies and clung on (for dear life, I will do a post about the Xining's sado-masochistic bus drivers later) to the back of one seat.
The man in that seat kept staring at me. In my peripheral vision -- I was in no mood to make eye contact -- I could see he was a smallish man and wore the distintive white cap of the Muslim Hui ethnic group. Under his gaze, I gritted my teeth, stared out of the window and ignored him.
Then I heard a groaning noise. It was coming from the seated starer. I glanced down, and it was then that I realised he had a nervous disorder, maybe cerebral palsy. His hands were twisted into cones, his body hung at a strange angle and he shook slightly but regularly.
I felt a sudden stab of shame.
When he looked up, I smiled, and he smiled back.
Maybe five minutes later it was his stop, He curled out of his chair. I tried to help him move to the door, but he had everything under control. He gestured to the now empty seat for me to sit in it (very rare in Xining where seats are fought over tooth and nail) but I shook my head and smiled.
As the bus screeched to a suicidal stop and the doors jerked open he clambered down. As he stepped off he looked back and gave me an enormous grin.
The bus pulled away I watched him walk off in his unique way. His strides may have been uncoordinated but he walked strongly and with decision.
He treated me with humanity.
And made me think what really do I have to complain about?
And made me think what really do I have to complain about?
That's a man on a bus for you.